This blog is titled Journey to Our Child. It was always intended to be about each of our adoptions. Nathan is now our child, not our adopted child. Although we have always led our life as an open book, we have decided to keep the details of our next adoption private.
Thank you to all those who have read my blog over the years. Special thanks to those readers who have emailed me thanking me for sharing my tale and providing them with inspiration to adopt a child.
Writing this blog allowed me to keep track of my adoption journey. It is my letter to Nathan, my beautiful child who I love more than life itself.
With that I say goodbye. This is my final blog entry.
Rajal
7/27/10
Why
When I started the blog last year I did so towards the end our adoption process. With our next adoption I wanted to start it at the beginning. Back in June I announced that we wanted to adopt another child. We are still in the planning stages and in the money gathering stage.
Adoption is a long process. From the time you decide you want to adopt and have the funds, to the time you get a child in the home, it is a minimum of 2 years. At least that’s how long it took us to get Nathan. There are also age limits on adoption. What counts is your age when you get the child in your possession. We are already pushing the age limit on international adoption.
Adoption is prohibitedly expensive. It is not $2000 or even $20,000. It’s far more than that. And so families hold yard sales, bake sales, fundraising dinners, put donation boxes at parties, send out letters requesting donations and post donate buttons on their blogs. That’s what I did. I put a donate button on my blog and added a tag line to my email: “We want to adopt another baby! Please help us change a child's life. You can help by donating at www.keyraj.blogspot.com”
A friend of mine said it best, “donate to an orphanage you feed a child for a day. Help a family adopt a child and you change a child’s life for life.”
I could not hold fundraising dinners or yard sales because I live in a state where I don’t really know anyone. If I was still living in California surrounded by family and friends I could do those things. I admit I was going to send out donation request letters at holiday time. That’s what we do in the adoption world. We depend on family and friends and the kindness of strangers to help us get a child.
When you are in the adoption world, your understanding of what is acceptable differs from that of a woman who can effortlessly carry a child. There is desperation in you that no one who hasn’t been there can possibly understand.
I don’t consider what I am doing to be begging. I am doing what I need to do to get my son a brother or sister. I have faith in God that he will bring me another child, just like he brought me my Nathan. This is all for Nathan. Every child needs a sibling or two.
Adoption is a long process. From the time you decide you want to adopt and have the funds, to the time you get a child in the home, it is a minimum of 2 years. At least that’s how long it took us to get Nathan. There are also age limits on adoption. What counts is your age when you get the child in your possession. We are already pushing the age limit on international adoption.
Adoption is prohibitedly expensive. It is not $2000 or even $20,000. It’s far more than that. And so families hold yard sales, bake sales, fundraising dinners, put donation boxes at parties, send out letters requesting donations and post donate buttons on their blogs. That’s what I did. I put a donate button on my blog and added a tag line to my email: “We want to adopt another baby! Please help us change a child's life. You can help by donating at www.keyraj.blogspot.com”
A friend of mine said it best, “donate to an orphanage you feed a child for a day. Help a family adopt a child and you change a child’s life for life.”
I could not hold fundraising dinners or yard sales because I live in a state where I don’t really know anyone. If I was still living in California surrounded by family and friends I could do those things. I admit I was going to send out donation request letters at holiday time. That’s what we do in the adoption world. We depend on family and friends and the kindness of strangers to help us get a child.
When you are in the adoption world, your understanding of what is acceptable differs from that of a woman who can effortlessly carry a child. There is desperation in you that no one who hasn’t been there can possibly understand.
I don’t consider what I am doing to be begging. I am doing what I need to do to get my son a brother or sister. I have faith in God that he will bring me another child, just like he brought me my Nathan. This is all for Nathan. Every child needs a sibling or two.
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